I’m sharing this true story with you because it’s beautiful. I hope that should you ever find yourself reading it, you’ll think so to.
Parul is a young girl who lives in Bangalore, India. She has a now ex-girlfriend, Sahiti. Parul and Sahiti were each other’s first love and whilst they’ve broken up Parul explained quite rightly I think that “when you love someone, you never stop. A relationship may run its course, but the connection and respect you hold for that person never really ends”. She’s wise beyond her years.
For Parul, being gay was a fairly simple thing to admit to the world. For Sahiti, this was not the case. In India, as is sadly still the case the world over – it’s not easy to assume that coming out will have no negative effect on your friends and work colleagues. It took her time and the journey wasn’t easy. “Luckily…”, Parul explained to me with hindsight and a rye smile, “…there was one person who without even knowing it, helped Sahiti more than anyone else”.
I wonder how many times each day someone, somewhere is asked about their celebrity crush. It’s a good conversation starter for some; an easy ice breaker for others. But for Sahiti, the answer she gave was also the simplest and most sensitive way to navigate the biggest unknown between her and the people around her – her sexuality.
“…mine is Gillian Anderson”.
Parul’s dream is for me to ask you for a autograph, note or message that she can pass on to Sahiti. It may seem like a small gesture, but given her crush on you and the role you’ve inadvertently played in her finding comfort in society, such a thing would be a beautiful cherry on her particular cake of life, love and diversity.
I hope to hear from you soon,